The pain you’re feeling is quite literally unimaginable and indescribable. You can barely move. It takes a herculean effort to do normal things like shower. Make yourself something to eat. Focus long enough to get through a quick Target run. Sometimes, you realize it’s hard to even catch your breath. And the tears that come whenever they want. .... you’re not even feeling up to the task of managing those.
The Grieving Process Has Taken Over
Your loved one has died and you feel shaken, exhausted, and overwhelmed. There are days you feel numb. Isolated. Utterly alone. Not just because your loved one isn’t here anymore, but also because it’s hard to communicate to anyone the unique loss you’re experiencing. Even if other people in your life are feeling the same loss, your pain feels so different.
Some days, you may find a moment of laughter or happiness-a glimpse of your former self-and then you feel guilty for feeling “normal” for a minute.
Anger, Grief, and Loss
And the anger! Oh, the sharp anger you feel and you just don’t know what to do with it. It burns white-hot sometimes. Flares up seemingly out of nowhere. It confuses you because you feel both empowered by it—after all, you can finally feel—and utterly out of control.
This pain in this grieving process is confusing and just too much. You’re simultaneously ready to unburden yourself, fearful of letting go of the pain, and desperate to figure out how you’re going to get through this. Will it last forever? Will it always be a dull ache? Should you always be prepared for unexpected tears?
Will this grieving process ever end? Can you ever feel better after this loss?
You know you’re ready to stop feeling the way you do, but you’re not even quite sure how you want to feel. You don’t want to forget your loved one; you don’t want to lose connection to them; you don’t want to backfill their place in your life. But you are pretty sure you want to be able to move a little more easily. You’d like to be able to focus on a task in its entirety. You want to leave the white-hot anger behind.
You’re also ready to think about other things, at least sometimes. To be out and about with friends and to be present in the conversation and happenings. To get your sleep back. And some normal energy levels. You’re ready to unshackle yourself from your grief.
Grief Counseling in St. Louis Can Help You Heal
Grief counseling can help you navigate this new life—your new daily routine without your loved one. Counseling after a death or loss can be used to guide you through this painful emotion; help you find practical ways forward, especially when it comes to how to handle major holidays, anniversaries, and other special events. Especially important, grief counseling can help you find meaning in your life, even beyond the tragedy and heartbreak of loss. We can work together to find hope that life can feel okay again, and even more than okay, that happiness can return to you.
How do we do that? What does grief counseling look like?
Grief counseling doesn’t look the same for everyone. Some people have time to prepare for the death of their loved one. In other cases, the death is sudden, an absolute surprise. Your relationship to and with the person who died can be a considerable factor in how some of our sessions will look-did things get left unsaid? Had you seen your loved one recently? Was it a family member or a coworker or a neighbor or a friend? All of those relationships are incredible relationships in our lives. But the type of relationship changes the fabric of how they are interwoven in our daily experience and gets consideration in the counseling experience. How old was your loved one who died and who did they leave behind? What life did they have in front of them?
We will get you through this grieving process, together.
All of these questions we will explore together. We will talk about memories; the impact of your loved one on your life; fears about the future. I’ll also teach you about the grieving process and work to demystify it- at least a little bit. We’ll plan for the days you feel overwhelmed by the grief; the days you experience it completely raw. We’ll take the journey together.
Begin Grief Counseling in St. Louis, MO
You don't have to feel this level of pain forever. You can heal from this grief and move forward, honoring the life you've lost. Therapy for grief and loss in our Ballwin, MO counseling clinic, we can help. We can also chat via telehealth online therapy in Missouri and online therapy in Illinois. Truly, anywhere in the state! Taking this first step is a big deal, so you are already making great progress! Just follow these simple steps and we will get started.
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Other Mental Health Services at Marble Wellness
At Marble Wellness, our goal is simple: Counseling services designed to help set you on a path of living a more fulfilled, calm, and happy life. We specialize in anxiety, depression, grief, chronic illness, therapy for men, couples, and maternal overwhelm. We can also help new moms with various postpartum concerns, moms in the thick of parenting, and moms with teens. We can also chat from wherever you are in the state with online therapy in Missouri and online therapy in Illinois. No matter where you are in your journey, we would love to support you.