Nurture Your Emotional Health
Moms of Teens
Your teenager has morphed into a being you hardly recognize. The eye rolls are intense enough to power the entire house. The tone they use when speaking to you is dripping with rudeness. It’s almost like they don’t even have the time to just say “hi, mom!” They isolate themselves in their bedrooms, when they used to constantly be under your feet or asking you to play or at least hanging out in the family room watching a show you couldn’t stand.
You don’t know if this is normal teenage behavior or if you should start to worry. The concern intensifies at night, naturally right when you want to fall asleep, and your thoughts go to the dark side. The worst possible outcomes are what your teenager is doomed for, you’re sure of it.
You’ve always heard “little people, little problems; big people, big problems” and suddenly, almost without warning, you’ve arrived at the “big problems” time of parenting. You are concerned, sometimes scared. Do you hover or let them make a mistake? Should you force family dinners or let them be social-because at least, when they’re social, you’re not worried about what they’re doing in their room?
The questions are constant but the answers, well, you’re just not sure where to find those.
This part of parenting is just so hard. The anxiety and depression they feel and hormone changes they are going through---why isn’t this talked about more?! The homework and the tests and the college prep…it’s all just so much to help them through. And the competition and pace of the extracurriculars is enough to break any organized family into weekly chaos. You don’t know how to handle helping them handle it.
And that’s to say nothing of the concerns abounding with them having constant access to the internet and social media. Should you track their phone activity or build trust? What about high school dances and dating; where is the parenting handbook for that? Drugs and drinking—where’s that line and why isn’t it in bright neon so you can recognize it?
You feel a little embarrassed bringing up some of the challenges to your friends. You don’t know what they might think of your child and you wonder if they are having any of the same struggles. Your partner is on a different page altogether for parenting through this stage, so you feel even lonelier in your efforts to find a new path, a helpful path.
You want to feel more confident in your parenting skills during this time of your child’s life.
You long to feel positive about your relationship with your teen…to like them as a person!
You want to enjoy the time the two of you spend together.
And oh, to start sleeping again, without those dark fears creeping into your thought process-that would be a dream!
Partnering with a counselor during this stage can give you confidence, a sense of self (it’s so easy to get lost in your teen’s life!), and even enthusiasm about parenting during these adolescent years. It can give you parenting tools, communication skills (“teen” is another language, right?!), and even a sense of freedom from fear and defeat.
Get in touch today and we can get started on your journey to parenting a teen with more ease and maybe even some more fun.
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